If I hear, “It can’t be that hard, you get to wear pajamas all day!”, one more time, I am going to lose it. I’m sure all stay-at-home moms agree. I can easily describe my daily stresses that anyone could understand like diapers, meals, cleaning, ect. But what I can’t easily explain is the mental stress. While I am extremely grateful for this precious time, I must say that I am often left feeling drained, overwhelmed, alone, and depressed. It’s seeing the same walls, doing the same routine, having conversation with only a 2 year old, that can make a mom go nuts. There are a few things though, that I’ve found to help and I wanted to share them.
1) Wake up Early But sleeping makes me happy. Yeah, me too, but I’m telling you it really feels great. Get up before the kids do and get yourself mentally ready for the day. Have your coffee and enjoy time alone.
2) Get Dressed Even if you are staying home all day, you will feel better and more productive if you look and feel like a normal person.
3) Easy Meals Make your day a little easier by simplifying something you do 3 times a day. Maybe do some prep on the weekend preparing freezer meals that you can just heat up when you don’t have much time.
4) Take Care of Yourself I’ve survived days on coffee and whatever scraps of food leftover from the kids’ lunches. Lord knows it helps nobody. I get tired and cranky. Remember to eat well and drink water. You’re no good to anyone if you don’t take care of yourself.
5) Put Energy into Something other than the House and Kids That’s pretty much why I started this blog. It’s a fun and nice distraction from boring routines. Do something that makes you happy. Everyday. Find the time. You deserve it.
6) Make Contact with the Outside World This is so important. Try to have at least one conversation a day with someone who doesn’t live with you. I love my family more than anything, but sometimes they can get a little predictable, and boring. (sorry guys)
7) Make Time for Your Significant Other Date Night! Give yourself something to look forward to and keep your relationship strong.
8) Go Outside Fresh air and sunshine can do miraculous things to your mood. The kids will have fun too, and get some exercise.
9) Music Listening to music during the day can instantly put you in a better mood. I’ve found that a fun song can also break a toddler’s bad mood too.
10) Don’t sweat the Small Things I am a huge sweater of all things, big and small, so this one is important to me. Take a breath and realize that an unfolded laundry pile is not the worst thing to happen in life.
Something that I often struggled with, is feeling like I’m not contributing enough to my family because I don’t make any money. To combat those feelings, I try to remember how much money I save us on child care. I also spend time comparing prices and couponing, this way I can still feel like I’m contributing financially.
I hope this may help someone! Also, is there anything else you might add to the list?